One of the more common questions I get at Dr Dick Sex Advice is about how to navigate opening a previously sexually exclusive relationship to include another or others. It’s generally hard to offer advice to a couple that I don’t know. So I often wind up suggesting some general guidelines — how the couple could begin the discussion, set some ground rules, find a compatible partner(s), enjoy the ride, and debrief afterward.
Unfortunately, this approach can make the idea of a threesome, group sex or swinging pretty mundane. And believe you me; they are hardly ever that. That’s why I’m grateful that my colleague, author, columnist, editor, and sex educator, Tristan Taormino, brings to life the joys of a ménage à trois.
This video is a collaboration between Tristan and the mammoth porn production company, Vivid. In fact, it’s hard to tell their educational programming from their porn productions. There are very high production values, as one would expect. There is none of the awkwardness one might find in an amateur production. The performers are uniformly beautiful and the sex is hot.
There is a down side to this; however. It all seems a little too slick and studied; the porn influence, I’d guess. The performers don’t really discuss what they what to do with each other and everything appears effortless. This isn’t an accurate representation of any three-way I’ve even known. And for someone wanting to figure out how to approach this kind of coupling, there’s precious little nuts ‘n bolts kind of information.
But maybe that’s the point, after all. Does educational and enrichment programming have to be clinical or pedantic? I don’t think so. And let’s face it; a whole lot more people fantasize about threesomes than will actually participate in one. So this is the ideal material for that group. It’s fun, it’s pretty, it’s full of sex and no one has a care in the world. Fantasy material indeed!
Oh, and you should know that this presentation has a decidedly heterosexual bent. There’s girl-on-girl action, no surprise there; but no guy-on-guy action. Was a teachable moment missed? I think so, but I wouldn’t have expected anything different from a Vivid production.
I have one major bone to pick with this project; no condoms were used during any of the sex scenes. This is a HUGE no-no in my book, particularly since this is billed as an educational video. Would it have killed them to tip their hat to the necessity of safe sex when multiple sex partners are involved? I gotta tell you I was really disappointed by this.
Tristan opens the DVD with some basics. She talks about some of the reasons why people have a 3-way and the sexual opportunities they present. She outlines the two kinds of threesomes — The Triangle: in which everyone is sexual with everyone, and The V: in which two people have sex with a third person, but not each other.
The DVD has, appropriately enough, three scenes.
Scene 1: We meet India Summer, Hailey James, and Jack Lawrence; they get together for a steamy ménage a trios. Both India and Haileey are hot for some girl-on-girl action, and now they can pig out. So yeah for that! There is also some nice toy use in this scene.
Scene 2: Shows us an example of The “V” type of threesome. Daisy Marie gets it on with both Derrick Pierce and his friend Christian. The men do not interact sexually with one another, which was a bummer for me. But everyone has a good gooey time anyway.
Scene 3: Here we have a wide-open threesome; everyone is into everyone. Penny Flame and Justice Young make out while Harmony is jillin-off on the bed. The gals get it on with each other as well as turn their attention to Justice. A big old vibe is introduced and everyone gets off big time.
Here’s a tip: if you’re can buy materials like this, you can rent this DVD as a whole or by the scene in my How To Video Library.
I liked this DVD a lot. It is not without it’s shortcoming, as I mentioned above, but I believe it serves its intended audience very well. I’d recommend Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Threesomes to any straight couple that might be considering a 3-way. Viewing it together with your partner would be an excellent way to open a discussion with your partner about spicing things up with another to your lovemaking.